Someone recently asked me, what is the theme of your blog? I realized that I couldn't really answer that. I just write what's on my mind, but that's not really a theme. I read through me previous posts to determine if I have a theme. And, to my surprise, it seems that I do. My theme seems to be relationships. I found it shocking that I would choose to write so much about relationships. This particular post is about why relationships are important to me, and why I'm hardly an expert.
I believe that relationships are the most important part of life, because in isolation, all accomplishments, possessions, and successes are absolutely meaningless. Without someone with whom to share these things, they hardly matter. Therefore, attending to relationships should be the single greatest endeavor in each of our lives. I certainly want it to be in mine.
Now here's why I'm not an expert. I have done my fair share of ruining important relationships in my life. It's really not a difficult thing to do, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who's. done it. It's such an easy thing to aim our baggage at those people who are most accessible, those closest to us, usually those who care the most. They are the easy targets.
Each of us has a history, a set of experiences that has molded our personality and guided our behaviors. We carry the baggage of this history everywhere with us, and all we can do is to try and be self aware and keep the baggage a safe distance from those around us. Best case scenario, the baggage stays hidden in a closet, under the bed, or some other dark place. But inevitably, that baggage comes out and we heave it at the closest person. Even though that person has no idea where it's coming from and they in no way deserve it, we heave anyway.
I am so bold to be here on this blog advising others about relationships when the reality is, I am in my own infancy of learning how to relate. I want to be a superstar at taking care of the relationships that matter in my life. I know how important it is. Unfortunately, what we want and what we do don't always coincide.
Sometimes the baggage of fear, insecurity, past hurt, or whatever it happens to be, gets the best of us, and we act toward the people we care about in ways that we had never intended.
When this happens, you have only a few choices. First, you can apologize and hope that the relationship is strong enough to warrant forgiveness. But this only works if you learn from your mistakes and never repeat them. So, secondly is to learn. Finally, if you are on the receiving end, try to be open minded and understanding without self sacrifice. If the relationship turns out to be damaged beyond repair, then accept your mistake, learn from it, and try to be better to the others who will enter your life from that point forward.
Relationships are built and also destroyed. We all have tender hearts. Entrusting that tender heart to another is a fearless act. If someone entrusts theirs to you, be careful with it. The destruction of this tender organ is painful for all involved. Be careful.
I believe that relationships are the most important part of life, because in isolation, all accomplishments, possessions, and successes are absolutely meaningless. Without someone with whom to share these things, they hardly matter. Therefore, attending to relationships should be the single greatest endeavor in each of our lives. I certainly want it to be in mine.
Now here's why I'm not an expert. I have done my fair share of ruining important relationships in my life. It's really not a difficult thing to do, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who's. done it. It's such an easy thing to aim our baggage at those people who are most accessible, those closest to us, usually those who care the most. They are the easy targets.
Each of us has a history, a set of experiences that has molded our personality and guided our behaviors. We carry the baggage of this history everywhere with us, and all we can do is to try and be self aware and keep the baggage a safe distance from those around us. Best case scenario, the baggage stays hidden in a closet, under the bed, or some other dark place. But inevitably, that baggage comes out and we heave it at the closest person. Even though that person has no idea where it's coming from and they in no way deserve it, we heave anyway.
I am so bold to be here on this blog advising others about relationships when the reality is, I am in my own infancy of learning how to relate. I want to be a superstar at taking care of the relationships that matter in my life. I know how important it is. Unfortunately, what we want and what we do don't always coincide.
Sometimes the baggage of fear, insecurity, past hurt, or whatever it happens to be, gets the best of us, and we act toward the people we care about in ways that we had never intended.
When this happens, you have only a few choices. First, you can apologize and hope that the relationship is strong enough to warrant forgiveness. But this only works if you learn from your mistakes and never repeat them. So, secondly is to learn. Finally, if you are on the receiving end, try to be open minded and understanding without self sacrifice. If the relationship turns out to be damaged beyond repair, then accept your mistake, learn from it, and try to be better to the others who will enter your life from that point forward.
Relationships are built and also destroyed. We all have tender hearts. Entrusting that tender heart to another is a fearless act. If someone entrusts theirs to you, be careful with it. The destruction of this tender organ is painful for all involved. Be careful.